softness in love.

 

i rmbr weeks back, while having some free conversations wit some stdnts, someone asked me dis - out of nowhere - “sir, how will u knw if a person is good for u?”. i was stunned a bit. i din see it comin. and the rest is history. i wasnt sure what my answer was like, but i rmbr seein her wit dat look at in her eyes, digesting the words i shared.

honestly, i think there r many signs. but to me, if u asked me so - one thg stands out most: they bring out the softness in u.

u knw, dat version of u dat you dun always show to the world. the one who still gets excited over lil thgs - bright colours, fluffy cats, soothing music et al. the u who shares silly reels, saves photos of baby cats, and doesnt mind watching the same movie again and again. dat version of u who hums while doin all those lil shyte, randomly enjoyin the rain, and finds reasons to giggle even after a heavy, long and tiring day.

the u who speaks gently. who doesnt need to pretend. who isnt trying to impress or pls anyone at all. the one who jst.. existing. calm. real. whole.

and i think dats the real answer - when someone makes u feel safe enough to let ur guard down. when u no longer hav to be on high alert. when u realise u’ve outgrown the version of urself who always had to defend, prove, or protect.

bcoz maybe the best ppl for us r not the ones who fix us, but the ones who remind us: u, too, can be soft. u, too, deserve to be loved. u, too, r capable of givin love back - gently, freely, and fully.