be real.

 

dun show someone a future u cant giv them. life is messy, and relationships often come wit layers of complexity, but one thg shld always remain clear: honesty. if u r not ready for somethg serious, or if ur heart isnt fully in it, not sure wat it is - pretending otherwise doesnt jst hurt them; it hurts u too. it creates a cycle of guilt, resentment, and regret that no one deserves to endure - if u ever feel dat way.

take a moment to reflect on y u mght hesitate to be upfront. r u afraid of disappointing someone? r u unsure of wat u want? well, u knw these r valid feelings, but they dun excuse leading someone on. the kindest thg u can do for urself and the other person is to be truthful. if u r seeking fun or connection w/o long-term commitment, own dat. tell them dat. or if ur jst wanted someone by ur side, so u wldnt feel lonely - let them knw dat as well. if u r feeling uncertain about ur feelings or priorities, say dat too.

false promises, even if unspoken, carry weight. they shape expectations and build dreams dat r not rooted in reality. walking away when u knw u cant giv wats being asked of u is hard, but it’s a far greater kindness than staying out of obligation or fear. in the long run, it is the moments of honesty - however uncomfortable - dat build trust, even if it’s trust in ur integrity after the fact.

think about the kind of respect you’d want if the roles were reversed. wld u want to be strung along wit vague reassurances? or wld u prefer the clarity, even if it stings? relationships, at their core, r about mutual respect, and respecting someone means being willing to face the hard truths wit some fcukin grace. it is not about crafting a perfect narrative; it’s about being real, being fcukin kind, and being fair.